Day 4

Where does betrayal fit in?

As your mind spins around and around, suddenly an overwhelming sense of betrayal sets in on you. Like a wave preparing to crash on the shoreline from the ocean, you feel the pain of betrayal rising up for its fall. The heaviness and pressure are on your chest and the sensation of impending doom approaches. This is the beginning of you reliving the traumatic events and pain of betrayal.

What is being betrayed mean to you? What it is for you may not be what it is for someone else. However, we have all experienced the hurt of betrayals. It can come from many directions and many people in our lives. We may not even remember most of them. There’s no way to get around them or to avoid them. It just happens. We have all been betrayed… and (quite honestly, I am certain we have all betrayed others as well). It is due to the fact that we live in a fallen and sinful world.

If we are on the road to healing, we will be able to look over the history of these events and be able to clean them out of our inner being. We will start to declutter the mess from within. We don’t need to hold onto them any long. We are moving forward, it’s time to clean house.

As you come across a memory of betrayal, don’t run from it. Instead, turn towards it and stand strong with confidence as you square up with betrayal. Identify it and call it for what it is. Here’s a place to start….

https://www.bible.com/reading-plans/9280-being-betrayed

Coming clean with yourself and acknowledging that betrayal is a part of you that needs forgiveness will be key in your journey of healing. In this step, you may forgive yourself for what you see as allowing others to betray you. Also, you will choose to forgive those who did the betrayal to you. A hidden opportunity for forgiveness is by acknowledging that at times in life we also betray ourselves, and for that we will need to be kind and forgive ourselves too.

Carrying the baggage of betrayal into the future will serve no benefit and will only manage to weigh you down and slow your desired progress. Yes, you will still be able to move ahead of the expedition, however, wouldn’t the slope be better traveled if the load were lighter?

I like how this video explains it. He says “By denying the pain brought along by betrayal, the more intense the pain becomes”. He goes on to say that you have to do an examination of self and look into your own heart to see where the pain is coming from.

https://youtu.be/R4uqomODRlc

He finishes by saying that by going within ourselves and examining, this will allow us to overcome the pain of experiencing betrayals from others. This piece will be a discovery of self that may take some time. Be sure to allow the time necessary to complete this step to the best of your ability. You may circle around to it again at a future moment in life, as God brings things up to you later. For now, give it the well-deserved efforts that will pay off in your favor today.

The road from hurting to healing will be an ever-changing terrain, filled with twists and turns, hills and valleys. There will be moments where the temperature will heat up and you will wonder how did you end up in the desert. There will be times you will celebrate and there will be times you will cry. But hang in there. These next several days will help you to become properly dressed for the journey.

The expedition will be worth it. God is your roadmap… he will guide you.

Blessings,

~ Faye ~